In many ways, I am very blessed to be living at home (my parents' home). Financially, I would be struggling if I were to find an apartment in New York, at least without a roommate. I am also living very close to work, close enough to bike in good weather and get home early to help out with dinner. I also often have many laughs with my family that I probably can't get when living by myself.
There have also been so many challenges with living at home. I've definitely blogged about this topic before, but I'm going to try to sound less whiny.
- Relationship with the Parents - It's so difficult living with your parents after 4 years of not. My parents still see me as the same person when I first left for college. And in a lot of ways, I catch myself reverting back to that point. I lose patience when my parents ask numerous questions and make comments about my life. I get frustrated, but there's no reason for me to get frustrated. I've flirted with the idea many times about finding my own place because the money I'm saving is not worth ruining my relationship with the parents. I'm still learning how to have serious conversations with my parents without getting defensive. By God's grace, I am getting better at catching myself.
- No privacy - Pretty self-explanatory. No privacy at home, even with closed doors. As a result, a lot of my readings are done in transit or the first half hour at work before more people arrive. Makes me enjoy my commute so much more. I LOVE PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION! That was a tangent, but ALTERNATIVE SOLUTION FOUND... maybe. My friend asked if I have ever asked my family to knock before they enter my room and I realized I HAVE NOT! So, if/when the next time I find myself getting a little annoyed at the lack of privacy, I will bring it up in conversation (w/o an attitude!).
- No control over how my family consumes - This is a challenge that was brought to light while participating in LoGOFF. I've tried talking to my parents about this, but it hasn't been very fruitful. I am not one to comment about the way they use their money, but as a believer, I have a responsibility to be a wise steward of what God has given to me. I've thought about buying my own ingredients to make dinner, but I think it would not be good. My parents are not very traditional, but they really love the idea of having the family share a meal together during dinner time. And to buy my own ingredients to make food on my own will be perceived as selfish and/or offensive.
In summary, reasons for leaving home include improving my relationship with my parents, having a little more privacy, and having the lifestyle I believe in.
